Jennifer Lopez says Ben Affleck
Maybe she’s as beautiful as Liz Taylor, but she certainly has just as many airs and graces as the Hollywood icon once did. Jennifer Lopez emulates her , especially in the discipline of “marriage” . Taylor has been married seven times – J.Lo is facing her third divorce at 41 . The inevitable fate of a diva? Or a love dilemma that she personally catapults herself into, over and over again?
“We have decided to end our marriage,” Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony , 42, announced over the weekend. It was a “difficult decision,” they assured. A “friendly solution” has already been found for all necessary matters. It sounds like the divorce has been a done deal for a long time.
In fact, Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony haven’t been seen together since the beginning of June. She was alone in Europe, as was the case on June 18th at “Wetten,dass..?” in Mallorca. And she only visited Disneyland with twins Max and Emme, 3. Family life? None. Apparently she was just waiting for the perfect time to make a public statement. Because just as J.Lo plans everything in life, she didn’t want to leave this “date” to chance. It’s hard to imagine if their invitation of the English prince couple William and Catherine to the Bafta party in Los Angeles on July 10th had been overshadowed by a breakup headline! This evening, when her mother accompanied her, documented where Jennifer had arrived: side by side with the royals and Hollywood celebrities like Nicole Kidman and Tom Hanks .
What a rise for a Puerto Rican girl from the Bronx who first became a paralegal and then worked her way up from backup dancer to chart-topper. But as successful as La Lopez is today as a singer, actress, presenter and designer, she has no talent for love. Now she is alone again, this entertainer with the legendary hip swing, who was named the most beautiful woman in the world by the US magazine “People” in April. She could have five guys on each finger. However, her search for true love now begins again.
It seemed as if she had found her Mr. Right in the also Puerto Rican salsa star Marc Anthony. Whether bad boy or smart guy – no man has been able to make J.Lo happy in the long term. Her short marriages to waiter Ojani Noa and dancer Cris Judd had failed, and her engagement to Ben Affleck was also broken off. The marriage to Marc Anthony was supposed to be forever: “We love each other, we understand each other, we know our hopes and dreams, our strengths and weaknesses,” enthused Jennifer Lopez in an interview earlier this year . And Marc Anthony also didn’t miss an opportunity to reveal his big feelings. “I couldn’t be more in love. I’m the happiest man on earth!” he shouted to the audience at a concert.
As soon as he divorced his first wife Dayanara Torres, he married Jennifer on June 5, 2004. The birth of Max and Emme on February 22, 2008 seemingly made their happiness complete. But the children also became part of the PR strategy. The pregnancy was announced from the stage in Malibu, a year later the parents also presented their twins at a concert, and a little later the babies on their beautiful mother’s arms advertised for Gucci. Success has long been the most important measure for Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony. They always tried to exploit their private happiness for their work: joint albums, joint concerts, joint films.
For the Hamburg qualified psychologist Michael Thiel, this is a major reason for the failure of this marriage. “When it comes to relationships, it’s important that you leave your job aside. You have to take time when it’s not about the job and money, but about the personal relationship.” Constant closeness can easily do harm: “For a partnership to work well, you have to be able to switch between closeness and distance.” Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony were unable to achieve this balancing act. Then there were the rumors about their finances: Marc Anthony is said to owe two million dollars in taxes. And that’s where Jennifer Lopez fears scandals like the devil fears holy water! If only they could let the glamor world they’ve laboriously built collapse. There were similar fears about the sex video that her ex Ojani Noa has been threatening to publish for years. So there’s enough fuel. Not to mention the difficult characters of the two. Marc, it is said in Hollywood , never conquered his cocaine addiction even during his marriage. And Jennifer serves all the clichés of a diva. Even though she tries to deny stories about extra requests, it is said behind closed doors that her dazzling smile disappears as soon as the cameras are turned off.
But there is still the other side: the little girl who dreams of great love and is looking for a shoulder to lean on. Even if she no longer believes in the prince charming who comes riding around the corner, as she said in the gala interview at the beginning of June, the topic of love is number 1 in her life. “It’s something I’m always exploring, always thinking about, wondering about, learning about,” said Jennifer Lopez as she released her album titled “Love?” presented. So what doesn’t fit together between theory and practice? Is their demand to be loved unconditionally too high? “If you want to have the perfect life and are very successful professionally, then exactly these standards can also be transferred to relationships,” says psychologist Thiel. But partnerships have to be worked on at least as hard as your career. An insight that Jennifer Lopez shared in the gala interview: “If something is important to you, you have to work on it,” she said. But apparently the marriage to Marc Anthony was already too broken.
Both want to avoid a mud fight over children and money. Because Jennifer’s $250 million fortune is four times larger than Marc’s, she must pay under California law. The children are with her in Los Angeles. As with his two sons and the daughter from previous relationships, he will probably have visitation rights. The question remains who can make J.Lo happy in the long term. According to her friends, it won’t be William Levy, whom she kisses in her current video. Psychologist Thiel’s prediction about Jennifer Lopez’s future husband: “He has to have a very stable self-esteem, he has to endure being in the second row sometimes.” He also had to offer his wife a safe haven and fill the void. Whenever the headlights go out.